When talking with your spouse or partner think about these key messages:

• Couples often find it hard to talk about difficult or sad topics. This means that they may shy away from talking about the intense emotions and changes that come with a cancer diagnosis.

• Talk openly and honestly with your spouse or partner. It is also helpful to sensitively listen to your partner’s thoughts and feelings.

• Don’t put on a ‘happy face’ if you don’t really feel that way. While you might try to protect your partner’s feelings by acting as happy as possible, it will help you and your partner more if you share your true feelings.

• You should also discuss practical concerns, such as treatment options and changes in routines, and future plans. However, allow yourself and your partner to keep life as normal as possible during your treatment.

• Consider joining a support group or talking with a trained counselor to help you each cope in your own way.

Sources:

American Society of Clinical Oncology, 2022. Talking With Your Spouse or Partner About Cancer.

Susan G. Komen, 2021. Talking with Your Partner.